Writing A Eulogy For A Friend

How do you say goodbye to a person who has known you through thick and thin, through the bad and the good times? The person who will accept you exactly just the way you are, no ifs, no buts? How do you say goodbye to a best friend?

Composing a eulogy for your best friend can be a daunting as well as painstaking undertaking. Anyway, your best friend deserves the best eulogy that you could give him; but then how do you that when you are all in pain and grieving? When the feeling of loss and bereavement is so fresh, it won’t be that easy. But then, think also that if you share the grief to the people who will be listening, somehow, it could ease up the burden and lighten the load you are carrying.

You could even use that grief in capturing the emotion that you truly feel at that moment you are delivering your eulogy, you will be able to share that emotion to the other people who are also grieving and feeling the loss of somebody as special as your friend. And more importantly is that you will get to see, and share, in a different shade, what your friend had really been for you. So how do you go about the ordeal? Try these little bit of ideas.

First thing to do is to gather information about your friend. Information that are different from what you already know of him. If you start with his achievements and glories, it might prove to be a good start since it will not be gloomy right away. Or better yet, you can be more personal in your approach. Start by sharing to the audience the w’s of your friendship; you know, the when and the where. Where did you meet? When did you consider and finally realized that he’ll be your best friend for life? Things like that wouldn’t prove to be so hard.

Share those dreams and wishes she had but were not able to come true or those things he wanted to but that he never got to do. Narrate a scenario that will really prove the goodness of your friend’s personality and character. Share the hardships you have undergone in order to be where you are at the moment of your speaking.

It would also be wise if you have a theme that you will follow in going through your eulogy because it would help you in controlling its flow. Say something about your friend that you will surely miss; his style of dressing, mannerisms, talents. Tell also of all the lessons in life you have learned from him and how he inspired you to do the things that you’ve done. In describing him, tell what he is to you, tell the audience something that you believe his family doesn’t even know of. That will clearly show how close you were to him. And if there is a need for you to share some negative things about him, make it appear in such a way that it will not so negative or not so bad. Remember that it is supposed to be a tribute, a honor that should be given to a deserving person.

Finally, end your speech with the hope, aspiration, and joy in thinking that you friend is eternally happy wherever he may be at that moment. You can always advice the people present there to not remember how he died, but never forgetting how he lived.